And she swears there’s nothing wrong, I hear her playing that same old song

I need to learn meditation or I need to start drinking at work. Remember old movies when the cranky guy would open his desk drawer and pull out a fifth? Then he and his cronies would toast their miserable lives, smoke cigarettes and everything would be OK for the next ten minutes? Sounds real good except for the next ten minutes when I’d doze off and wake up coughing up a lung and feeling like shit. So I’d end up with the same result only without the warm feeling of booze.

You say it’s only 8:30 how can it be bad already? Oh, my friends, it not only can be bad but it is bad. The noise in my office ceiling. The debate I had in my head about pulling out my MP3 player–to pull it out and listen to it or keep it hiding in my bag. I decided that since the woman down the hall had her wallet stolen out of her bag that the MP3 player is at risk whether it’s on my desk or in my bag. I have hidden the player behind my screen and speakers. At least it will be harder to steal. My plastic Jesus that normally sits on my PC to protect and offer beneficence was laying on my desk. I don’t know how come he was so far from his perch or why nearly everything on my desk had been moved around–overzealous cleaning crew? Did they actually use my phone over the weekend because it was totally not in the right place. Do I even care?

Then there is the knowledge that I’ve reached a career plateau which includes a structural plateau and a content plateau. Lucky for me I haven’t reached a life plateau yet.

On a positive note, I managed not to kill Control Freak over the weekend when she drew the conclusion that because we don’t subscribe to the daily paper that we don’t read. Yeah, I don’t read the local paper that is taking a bigger and bigger nose dive every day with lackadaisical writing and weak content. But I do read complex, tough things every single day. For my job and for school. But, the Control Freak is always right. Right out of her mind.

Seriously, where is that bottle?

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It’s Been Two Years

It’s been two years since the ice cream maker died. The other night after The Niece, Lil’ Elvis and their parents were over for a swim, we went to Bed, Bath and Beyond to pick up some things. One of those things was a Cuisinart ice cream maker.

We’re having our friend the Control Freak over this afternoon. She has someone from France staying with her and so they are coming to hang out at the pool. We decided to make things that are southern and regional for dinner. We’re going to smoke a chicken and slather it in BBQ sauce and we’re making peach ice cream. The ice cream maker is downstairs churning right now.

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I’ve Been Trying to Post This For Days

Work has been a nightmare lately. It’s a soul-suck.

Anyway, the other day I had to watch this video because I knew it would make me feel better.

But then there was this version and I swear how can you be grumpy after watching it?

There are chickens just back from the shore, for crying out loud.

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Two Salads and a Very Bad Day

Saturday night I made a salad out of some yellow grape tomatoes friends gave us, one of our own tomatoes, one of our own anaheim peppers that I roasted on the stovetop, red onion, basil, goat cheese and salt and pepper. It was great–fresh tasting with some heat from the pepper but balanced by the goat cheese.

Sunday night I blanched some of our freshly picked green beans and then cooled them down immediately. To the green beans I added a tomato and some salt and pepper. Right before serving I added a little bit of a vinaigrette I made using an orange muscat vinegar and olive oil. That was a fine green bean salad. We also had corn on the cob from the garden. I melted some butter and added cumin and black pepper to it. The corn was wonderful with the melted butter. Vegetables right from the garden are so much tastier.

Yesterday was a terrible, rotten, no good day and it is representative of why I need to get the heck out of Dodge. The better-half made spaghetti with bacon, chorizo and loads of garlic. It was delicious and just the comfort food I needed.

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We’ve been catching up

We’ve been listening to stream captures tonight and we’re at the point where we’ve been listening to the Electric Croude from 7/6/08. I had planned to come into the house to take care of some processes running on our laptops (we’re digitizing our CD collection, oy vey) when George Maida started playing selections from the Talking Heads.

As someone with this hanging on her wall:

you know I had to sit in my chair and jam.

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He’s Not Allowed Out Anymore

OK, He only has 192 more days in office. Would it be possible to keep him locked up for those next few months?
I really think he becomes a bigger buffoon as every day passes.

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Where Everyone Knows Your Name, at least now they do

Tonight after class the better-half and I went to Cafe Rustica which is between 4th and 5th on Main. It was really outstanding. We sat at the bar and when the woman behind the bar saw us she asked us if we’d been in before. We hadn’t but we told her she looked familiar. We placed our order for the cheese plate with flights of complementing beverages and then I stared at her as she worked. I turned to the better-half and said I know where we know her. He and I said at the same time, “Bamboo”.

When she got back to us we told her it was Bamboo and she nodded her head in remembrance. It’s been awhile since we hung out there but evidently we were there enough to make an impression. I love the Bamboo.

Thanks to her excellent memory of all bars and restaurants in the Fan, she helped us remember the name of the Paradise bar. We’ve been trying to come up with that name for over a year. She also reminded us of Not Betty’s. A long dead but much beloved bar. Truth be told we only went there a few times–it’s prime was when I was either not allowed out of the house or was in college out of town.

Anyway, the cheese plate was outstanding. There was a goat cheese, a blue cheese and an irish porter. We sipped wine, beer and port with the cheeses. Excellent.

For dinner I ordered the polenta with fresh, chef-grown vegetables. Oh my gawd. I died and went to heaven. The better-half ordered the keftas and really enjoyed. We’ve decided we have to grind our own beef at least once. Those patties were outstanding.

We were too full to order dessert but before we left we exchanged names with the woman behind the bar and told her we’d see her soon. That’s a fact, Jack.

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Milestone

As of today I’ve outlived my mother. Is it weird that the better-half and I calculated that up?

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Pondering

I met Control Freak at a former place of employment back in the mid 1990s. We became friends at work and then started doing things together outside of the office. We’ve been to Florida and the Bahamas together on short trips.

Control Freak has become more freaky as time has passed and this past year I’ve become more and more annoyed. She has obsessions that she flips through and for those of us around her we just have to wait until the latest obsession dies down to a dull roar before we get a word in edgewise. I’m becoming more and more intolerant of the way she behaves.

I know that her behavior has always been like this but now I’m feeling like I. DO. NOT. CARE. whenever she opens her mouth or types up an email. I flat out ignored her obsessive questioning about flying, customs and driving from DC to Richmond the other day and only responded to the part of her email dealing with a restaurant. I just didn’t want to spend time that day talking about how long it would take a person to get here from a foreign country because I. DO. NOT. CARE. Actually, I would care if I knew it wouldn’t turn into a back and forth email all day about logistics.

When I began taking classes for my master’s, I was told that I may have difficulty with people around me. Apparently, there’s a thing about needing a supportive environment for undertaking graduate school at a later age. I have a supportive husband and employer so that’s really been great. I’m wondering if my intolerance has anything to do with the fact that I’m moving in a completely different direction than Control Freak. Not that she’s in my support collective…but she’s out there on the edge.

I haven’t experienced this with other friends but my other friends tend to be more open and honest with me. We have more transparent relationships–where I don’t have to guess what in the hell is going on. Control Freak only lets out a little information at a time and so, therefore, it seems like there’s always a struggle to make a connection/to give a damn. I’m always more than an arm’s length away. I find it’s too much work and I have enough other things: work, school, family, extended family to worry about what Control Freak is thinking/doing/saying. It also doesn’t help that she says things like “dark beer tastes like ass” when I’m ordering a dark beer. Or, “olive oil is so weird” when she knows we use olive oil nearly exclusively.

I know those last two things are nitpicky but they do shine a light on the overall exhaustion I’m feeling about this relationship. I’m not sure what to do.

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Happy Fourth

Happy Fourth of July.

In 1986, I was in Germany for the 4th. The group of people I was with went to Heidelberg that day. I’ve been to Heidelberg since then and it’s a great city. Good food and nice people. When I got back to home base in Nattheim, I went over to my friend’s sister’s house and they insisted that we watch fireworks from NY. I have to admit that nearly every 4th of July, I think about that day in Germany.

I looked for fireworks+1986 on youtube and came up with a Siouxie reference and I decided I didn’t really like that reference, so I found another one that doesn’t really relate at all, but I like it better, so here it is:

Even though I’ve never watched fireworks in Heidelberg, here you go:

The important thing to think about is that I’m positive I’ve stayed in the building that has all that post and beam in the background.

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